Its a cold pain,a chill you feel right in your bones -limbiley-
There is nothing more imaginable like the pain of loss,we have all lost things before but I doubt many appreciate the pain of loosing something that is connected to you.Your fresh and blood.That which is a part of you or at least could have been.
This weekend was beautiful,in the middle England on a cold Saturday morning a man treks through the cold weather with a bag on his shoulder,he has been away and she doesn’t expect him to return home just yet.He has managed to catch the 5:11 transport out just to be with her,if only for that weekend,upon arrival he then rings her and says “look out your window” and a joy spurns in his heart as he sees her red painted fingernails draw the curtains.Much of their day is spent in the shops and they get to meet family and friends,its a productive day.Later these two lovers in essence prepare for a Sunday service,as he irons her grey shirt he is greatful and thankful to heaven for not only the iron but for giving him someone to iron for,in matching suits they step out.All is well and it is good,its obvious the Love and peace is flourishing.
Fast forward a few hours later he must leave her again Because circumstance demands it,Now this is where it gets complicated.You see now on the transport back he gets a txt from a friend,this guy has a wife at home and she is expecting a child,and his txt is thus “i am at the hospital with the mrs” eagerly he answers back congratulating them,cos in essence the water broke and we should be welcoming a new life into the world.
He boast to his other half that he left behind and they jokingly but seriously wonder and consider when this will be them,celebrating and welcoming a new life of their own.
It is not until later that the friend messages back with the words “sorry mate,we lost him my son is gone” they suffered a miscarriage,at 8+ months.
At this point I know that there was a life kicking and very much alive but its gone now,my hopes are dashed and I end arguing with the very person who I was planning to share that experience with,she is my sarah,my other half,my promise,my meet from God, but still I am afraid, coz you see now am afraid of how its going to be should the very thing that happened to my friend happens to us.
He calls me later 0800 hours he seems okay and I admire his braveness,but deep down I know he is hurting,such pain cuts deep and its a chill that sets in the bones.
I could only comfort him as best I know how,with the word of the Lord.
I then remember something else,as our days are so is our strength,so I was praying the wrong prayer,the evil worrysome day is upon us,how do we get through it?
as our days are ………..so is our strength.
on the oct 24 2009 my niece Danielle was partying at her grandad’s, my dad’s birthday at 10.05am she was dead. She had met another car head on while lost on a back country lane not far from home. I know about lost, but one thing i know is that you cannot grieve for someone else and they cannot do it for you. So be there for your friend and wait because it is all you can do.
That is great advice,I shall be there best I can and let God do the healing.
Thank you your insight is always appreciated.
You are welcome.
I am very sorry for yr friend loss. May God give them the peace which transcends all understanding.
Thank you for your kind words.
Means a lot.
God is Faithfull….
And he shall remain so now,then and forever more….blessings of Abraham to you.
I receive the blessings in Jesus name Amen be blessed too.
“Like” doesn’t do it for me on these words. “Touched” does.
Thank you Paul for the support.
Limbi, I am very sorry for your friend’s loss. I hope the couple have a good support group around them. I cannot imagine losing a child.
At the end of your post you mentioned trying to provide comfort. Sometimes our comfort comes in the form of silent tears, a hug or a squeeze of a hand. At this point words fail. Just be there for them, that will mean much.
Yes silent support