Ur woman; a helper or hindrance? What do you do when the other half is a Haggar?

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.–Gen 2 v 18

So it is then established that it is not good for man or woman to be alone,but wait a minute now why is it so often that the very half that we can’t live without is often the very half that influences us to do well let’s just say that which we would not do had we stayed in and watched a football game with the boys,or had we golfed it.I of course am speaking from a male point of view which being one isn’t so hard.

Curious then that when I look around me I see most marriages/relationships that your doom/absolve lies in who you end up with.

Now don’t get me wrong here but in his quest for man to find a wife he most often finds a knife.

Notice I said quest meaning the journey to marriage which covers all relationships in general.In my pondering while looking at my own life,friends,colleagues and history itself the biggest downfall of a man has always been a woman! Oh I feel something here.Wars were started, entire cities fell,blood brothers killed eachother,credit scores ruined all because of this beautiful creature called a woman, I need some help here.

As men we should know better but we don’t,check this out;

Eve: influenced Adam to bite the fruit.

Sarah:influenced Abram to have Ishmael and She even laughed at God once.

Jezebel: well had some influence on her husband’s relentless pursuit and killing of prophets.

Job’s wife:told him to curse God and die.

Helen of Troy: Greek mythology so beautiful her abduction brought on the Trojan war.

Cleopatra:her beauty was equally marched with her conquest of strong and powerful men.

Your ex/ current other half:………….

It then occurs to me that a man’s success and happiness is as determined by the woman in his life.Coz look if your woman is willing to overgo a couple of extravagant Christmases so that the business can do well in year 1 then you have been lucky indeed and she will be smiling all the way to the shoe shop later on.
Conversely I have seen a few men whose credit score has been ruined,the business has disappeared,others are working just as hard trying to keep 2 families afloat for once divorced and remarried one has 2 families he just doesn’t get to see the other one much if at all.

It is my conclusion then that a woman is this powerful,beautiful,God laughing,serpent speaking(what was eve thinking anyway talking to a snake?) influential man pulling creature.A kryptonite if you will,which has the ability to bring even super-man to his knees.

This then makes me wonder for when I look at Sarah though she was the ideal one still had her faults but when I look at Haggar she is the one you are attracted to for all the wrong reasons but just can’t seem to help yourself,and this always ends badly (for you the man that is) there is always a price to pay turmoil,emotional pain,financial pain,spiritual and even mental anguish to physical pain at times (or most times lol, depends)

So the question is and still remains ……

……a woman:a helper or a hindrance and what do you do when your other half is a Haggar?

What do you do when God won’t let you die

But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a broom tree. And he prayed that he might die, and said, “It is enough! Now, Lord, take my life, for I am no better than my fathers!”– 1 kings 19 v 4

Anyone had a “I’d like to die moment?” I know I have.

Notice Elijah a powerful instrument of God,drained,depressed and broken down in the desert and asking God to let him die.

Upon reflection on the promise of heaven and how glorious it is,my somewhat dingy moment I have come to the conclusion that I want to go to Jesus.This earth is treacherous,evil and cold and I would rather be home.But I realise that for this to happen I must therefore die,in this I know my life is a gift from God hence not my own so then I can’t end it myself,I must seek permission from he who gave me this gift……..oh I feel something here.

I cry to The Lord “father am tired,am wiery, let me come home,this life take it away!,I can’t take anymore”

And he says no,your work hasn’t even begun yet.My my my, Am in trouble here.

What do you do when God won’t you let you die?

See this isn’t just a momentary thing Elijah had done wondrous things and if he wanted to die a strong prophet like him, what more me? Somebody help me here!

What do you do when God won’t let you die?

But wait….

What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him?
For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honour.–psalms 8 v 4-5

This makes me look into my purpose again I must be here for a reason if he didn’t let Elijah die ….and if he didn’t let me die……and if he didn’t let you die ……… Oh ya all don’t hear me.

What do you do when God won’t let you die?

Tears of the sun

And when he came to himself –Luke 15 v 17

The measure of a man isn’t what he does when he is being watched but what he does when he is alone……

I wonder how well would/should one cope when the support network around them collapses or just isn’t simply there anymore.

Notice then a young man who has left home and is in a new city,the environment is fresh,crisp and as mint as it is evil.The temptation is just too much.The martinis are as dry as the skirts are short.Oh lord this boy here needs help,he may be a decent enough person but the structure which helped uphold his life just isn’t there and in his arrogance he underestimated the pull his demons had on him! Some help is needed here.

In the midst of all the sin he fights to get back in his holy father’s grace.In his empty apartment he sits on a rather comfy chair but he has no peace,the words come out “as he is so am I” but hold on a minute here,Jesus doesn’t have an empty life nor does he lack anything,so what’s wrong with this picture here.
“Lord I measure my Life and it doesn’t seem to add up to the promise,I know in my attempts to overcompensate…..I let the devil in.”

Tears start flowing down and they burn.

A voice comes over “you my son are in training, though you have given in,do not give up,you are never alone,the solution to your troubles were created long before you were.For I am your God your father your protector and provider Jehovah Jireh and my provision will be seen,hold on help has been dispatched.”

It is as of that moment that a peace dwells in,a peace that surpasses all understanding.

And when he came to himself…….yes the prodigal son returns home to his father.

All it took was reaching out for help and he did the rest.Provided help where and when it was needed the most,a helping hand was stretched out to pull and soothe the troubled soul, his provision was indeed seen,he is faithful.What was I thinking staying away for so long?

And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.– Luke 15 v 20

I wonder who has ever had

Tears of the sun