And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.–Gen 2 v 18
So it is then established that it is not good for man or woman to be alone,but wait a minute now why is it so often that the very half that we can’t live without is often the very half that influences us to do well let’s just say that which we would not do had we stayed in and watched a football game with the boys,or had we golfed it.I of course am speaking from a male point of view which being one isn’t so hard.
Curious then that when I look around me I see most marriages/relationships that your doom/absolve lies in who you end up with.
Now don’t get me wrong here but in his quest for man to find a wife he most often finds a knife.
Notice I said quest meaning the journey to marriage which covers all relationships in general.In my pondering while looking at my own life,friends,colleagues and history itself the biggest downfall of a man has always been a woman! Oh I feel something here.Wars were started, entire cities fell,blood brothers killed eachother,credit scores ruined all because of this beautiful creature called a woman, I need some help here.
As men we should know better but we don’t,check this out;
Eve: influenced Adam to bite the fruit.
Sarah:influenced Abram to have Ishmael and She even laughed at God once.
Jezebel: well had some influence on her husband’s relentless pursuit and killing of prophets.
Job’s wife:told him to curse God and die.
Helen of Troy: Greek mythology so beautiful her abduction brought on the Trojan war.
Cleopatra:her beauty was equally marched with her conquest of strong and powerful men.
Your ex/ current other half:………….
It then occurs to me that a man’s success and happiness is as determined by the woman in his life.Coz look if your woman is willing to overgo a couple of extravagant Christmases so that the business can do well in year 1 then you have been lucky indeed and she will be smiling all the way to the shoe shop later on.
Conversely I have seen a few men whose credit score has been ruined,the business has disappeared,others are working just as hard trying to keep 2 families afloat for once divorced and remarried one has 2 families he just doesn’t get to see the other one much if at all.
It is my conclusion then that a woman is this powerful,beautiful,God laughing,serpent speaking(what was eve thinking anyway talking to a snake?) influential man pulling creature.A kryptonite if you will,which has the ability to bring even super-man to his knees.
This then makes me wonder for when I look at Sarah though she was the ideal one still had her faults but when I look at Haggar she is the one you are attracted to for all the wrong reasons but just can’t seem to help yourself,and this always ends badly (for you the man that is) there is always a price to pay turmoil,emotional pain,financial pain,spiritual and even mental anguish to physical pain at times (or most times lol, depends)
So the question is and still remains ……
……a woman:a helper or a hindrance and what do you do when your other half is a Haggar?